Baby After Miscarriage
Tomorrow, Saturday, December 5, I will be joining Noelle Hatton of Mothering Every Mother, to discuss miscarriage and astrology and where the two intersect and what can be gained from looking at your and your baby’s natal charts.
Conceiving after miscarriage is a raw, beautiful and challenging experience.
I experienced four consecutive miscarriages after our second son was born, and having had no medical explanation (at that time) left me feeling overwhelmed, frustrated and absolutely heartbroken.
We conceived our daughter Gigi (now 4 years old) after these losses and my pregnancy and early months of parenting her were some of the most challenging I’ve had. The anxiety, guilt, fear and love are intertwined and can be conflicting at times.
“…there are some things in life that you are never able to truly put away, they are just wounds you learn to live with.”
I came to find out that I was severely vitamin deficient and that had likely been the medical explanation for my losses, but the experiences had nonetheless left me different as a woman and a mother. And I sought understanding – not necessarily closure, because there are some things in life that you are never able to truly put away, they are just wounds you learn to live with. But when you understand them, you can live with them with far more grace.
I went through my miscarriages during a Saturn transit for me; understanding that this was a period of challenge and restriction that promoted me toward growth, gave these experiences purpose. This transit was encouraging me to get clear on my own personal direction and self definition; it was a maturation of the lens through which I processed experience. It came back to my need to prioritize and re-evaluate where I was focusing my energies.
I went through my miscarriages during a Saturn transit; understanding that this was a period of challenge and restriction that promoted me toward growth, gave these experiences purpose.
In addition, seeing the charts of each of these beings that existed for short periods of time in our spiritual plane, did a lot for me to see where we were connected, how the energy I experienced when they were with me was expressed in their celestial fingerprint.
Astrology asks us to believe in reincarnation, that our souls return to continue their karmic duty, lifetime after lifetime, evolving and progressing a bit more each journey, bringing with us the skills we need to work through our karma. Many mothers feel that their baby’s energy stays close by, or even returns to them in a later pregnancy (I have had both of these experiences and will share more in later posts.)
Everyday I see my children, these beautiful beings who have chosen me to shepherd them through these formative years, instilling in them the values they’ll need to navigate the world on their own. I get to see how they self-express, evolve and challenge themselves. I may not have gotten to see the full expression of the babies who only stayed with me a short while, but their impact was no less.
When you have been through the loss of a pregnancy, nothing will replace that baby or the possibilities that were a part of their growing life. Nothing should. It took me a while to realize that miscarriage is so widely shared among women – one in four will experience pregnancy loss on their journey to motherhood. It seemed as though almost every woman I shared my losses with could respond in kind, or offer up a story of someone they are close to who had been through similar. But though it is common, doesn’t make it less difficult, important or heart wrenching.
So if you’ve been through loss, know you’re not alone and know that whatever connection you have to your baby is authentic, real and valid and there is a large, loving community here to support you, listen to you and offer you comfort and understanding.
Please join me and Noelle on Saturday (10AM EST/5PM SAST) if you can. If you’re unable she will be saving the Live to her Instagram profile.
Also enter to win one of TWO free mini readings with me I’m giving away to TWO mothers who have experienced loss. It will include a reading of your and your baby’s chart; details below and on my IG page to enter.
IG LIVE GIVEAWAY
TWO MINI READINGS FOR MOTHERS WHO HAVE EXPERIENCED LOSS
1.) Follow me @astrologicalmama and Noelle Hatton at @mothering.every.mother on IG
2.) Comment on my post and/or tag one person who would benefit from the IG Live or from a reading
3.) You DO NOT NEED TO ATTEND THE IG LIVE TO WIN!
4.) Entry is open INTERNATIONALLY (you must speak English to enter)
5.) Winners to be selected Saturday, DECEMBER 12
I hope to see you there, and/or connect with you soon!