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Nadine Naue

Aquarian, Model, Stylist, Momprenuer, and Femme Extraordinaire

Nadine is a master at many things. One of them, is her homemade Matcha – the making of which is a simple but beautiful ritual that I have the good fortune to be on the receiving end of, when we have a cup from time to time.

I met Nadine through a mutual friend, and, like with most Aquarius women, I was enamored, intimidated and instantly adoring of her unique style, her confidence, her authentic self-expression and her ability to completely accept everyone exactly as they are.

I should also mention, my Libra sun is happy as clam to chat all day long with her about ALL the things… literally, everything. We once spent 12 full hours at a day spa and I don’t think we stopped talking the entire time! So, if you don’t have an Aquarius in your friend group, I suggest you find one immediately! And if you need a friend and a stylist, then simply call Nadine!

Originally from Munich, Germany, Nadine now lives in New Jersey with her wonderful husband, George, their five year old son, Jasper and their new puppy, Juno. Nadine started her styling business, Notes From Nadine, a couple of years ago now (along with a number of other projects in design and styling) and astrologically, it’s clear why she’s on this specific path.

Birth Chart Analysis

When it comes to Nadine’s career choice, you could say her career chose her and organically evolved and you would be right… and her birth chart echoes that story. Looking at her chart is looking at a destiny threaded with creative artistry, individual expression and entrepreneurial spirit.

Nadine’s moon is in Aries in her 10th house, so she feels her most invigorated when she’s involved in exciting, challenging or new experiences. Her need for travel and and exploration (hello, international modeling career!) isn’t simply wanderlust.  In her case, it’s actually her need to satisfy her emotional body, which is something like a pioneer: it needs new experiences and undiscovered frontiers in order to grow. Lucky for her in the 10th house, the house of career, which also rules how we see ourselves, our public persona and our life’s work, this can be fulfilled through new work endeavors and projects … (something which Nadine has plenty of!)

As an Aquarian sun, she’s already an innovator, but this is echoed in her 10th house Aries moon placement, a signature that also makes her VERY good at getting things off the ground. Aries is the sign of the initiator; action and beginnings are born of Aries placements (as are many entrepreneurs.)

Nadine’s Midheaven (which also rules our career and life’s work) falls in Pisces, with Mars and Venus conjunct. This conjunction alone indicates Nadine’s ease in the public eye and the charm she so effortlessly exudes. But maybe more importantly, this is where Nadine’s inner artist comes through. AND it’s why her work and her life are so intrinsically intertwined. She can’t divide her private life from her work: her purpose is part of how she’s built, it’s not a function of what she does or the skills she earns over time. 

With a Midheaven in Pisces her private, most intimate feelings are channeled through her work and Mars conjunct the Nadir gives her ambition and drive and is part of why she developed a such a strong sense of self and independence from a young age.  With the addition of Venus conjunct the Nadir as well, she also has a romantic view of, and an intensified love for the work she does.

Innately Nadine’s work is tied to her high destiny with her Pluto in Scorpio in the 5th house. Her destiny lies in creative work, and it puts her center stage. 

This is just the beginning for Nadine; I’m so happy you will all have a chance to know her a bit more..

Read on for her full interview.

Who inspires you the most in your work?

People who enjoy leaving their comfort zone.

What was it like to travel all over the world as a model?

Exciting, inspiring, mind opening, scary, lonely…best thing I could have ever done at the time!!!

Favorite place? Because?

I absolutely cannot pick one. I’ve seen so many beautiful places that are so different and that I adore for different reasons. My “Heimat” which is around Munich (Germany) because I love mountains and the whole culture around being outdoors, Paris because of the architecture, fashion and street cafe culture. Myconos (Greece) because it’s so picturesque and has crystal clear turquoise water and great night life. Barcelona also because of the architecture, it’s extremely laid back (hello, siesta!) and the beach culture.

When did you know that your passion was/could become your career?

When other people pointed it out to me!

Most famous person you’ve met:

Jim Carrey, Jude Law, Jay – Z, Cara Delevigne, Matthew Broderick

Where is the strangest place you (or someone else) has seen your image?

A magazine cover that was for sale in a antique/vintage store… That was one of the moments I couldn’t help but feel old!

Tell us a joke:

Eventually, everyone will be quarantined to their houses with no sports to watch…and in 9 months from now a boom of babies will be born…and we will call them “Coronials.“

Is there one achievement/award/campaign you’re most proud of, and why?

I think I’m most proud of stepping out of my comfort zone constantly, being open for new ventures and challenges.

Why do you find fashion, styling and clothes so empowering?

It’s just another piece of “the puzzle.” It matters just as much as how you care what food you put in your body, what beauty products you put on your skin, how you stay in shape. It’s all about self-worth and how you show up for yourself!!

How has fashion evolved for women over time in a way you think gives us more or less control?

We can express ourselves and show who we are more than ever! There is less judgment around what is acceptable f.e. how short a skirt can be or how tight or oversized….in terms of styles we have every freedom f.e. classic, athleisure, masculine, super feminine, sexy, colorful & bold, minimalism… All these styles are in “fashion” — you can really be you and the only rule is that the clothes should fit you properly and make you feel your very best self!!

Worst rejection you’ve ever experienced:

I probably felt more rejection in my private life, just like everybody else when you try to develop relationships or friendships. In the fashion industry I realized very early on that “rejection” is not personal. At the end of the day, as a model you need to sell a product or a feeling, and it can be as simple as that the product just looks better on a blonde or the blouse falls better with a bigger bust or that you still look too young for that anti-age moisturizer your are auditioning for. It’s really not that personal therefore it doesn’t feel like rejection.

What has been the most surprising about running your own business?

How hard it is to turn off your head, stop thinking about work and being more present in the moment.

Closest you’ve come to death?

Fainting and being unconscious for a little too long!

What’s in your purse right now?

Face mask, hand sanitizer, wallet, sunglasses, gloves, little make up bag.

Favorite show currently or last show you binge watched?

“The Morning Show” on Apple+ TV.

Song on repeat?

“DREAMS” by Fleetwood Mac

Books on bedside table?

Everything is Figureoutable by Marie Forleo

ONE beauty product you would take to deserted island:

Avène tinted SPF 50+++

First kiss:

Ha! Cute, innocent and stiff.

Current indulgence/guilty pleasure?

Spicy chips!

Most useful business resource:

Other female entrepreneurs.

Favorite part of your job:

Traveling, meeting and really getting to know different kinds of  people, helping.

Most annoying part of your job:

Marketing/Selling

First stamp in your passport when you can fly freely again?

GERMANY!

First celebrity crush:

Leonardo DiCaprio in Titanic!

Current celebrity crush:

Do influencers count? @camillecharriere @alisontoby @giorgiatordini @ninasandbech

Have you ever disliked something and changed your mind?

Yes! Caviar…never cared for it before but recently tried Beluga caviar and really liked it!

Best parenting hack:

Empty card board boxes.

How do you take your coffee?

I only really drink Matcha but when I do drink coffee I would add either whole or oat milk.

Thank you for joining us!

Make sure to visit Nadine at: www.notesfromnadine.com, @notesfromnadine or at www.glamhive.com (where you can book a digital styling experience!)

xo

Rebecca

Photography by: Jessica Lee

Styled by: Nadine Naue

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MOTHERHOOD

Parenting: It’s a Lifting Game

Like everyone else this past summer during the pandemic, bored and frustrated at the lack of options to socialize, exercise and do just about anything resembling something normal, I took up the only hobby deemed “totally safe” by the CDC: Tennis. 

In fact, my entire family took up, or returned to, tennis. Except for the baby, although, truth be told, she spent many an afternoon at someone’s lesson running around picking up loose tennis balls and having the time of her life. #buythemnothing

Our summer included a lot of tennis, and a lot of parenting. No camp meant long days with all five kids (then aged 14-1) which also meant managing tantrums, attitudes, needs, wants and desires that ranged a 13 year age gap. It was intense. But everyone loved tennis. I was the last to get on board with it (my Uranus in Sagittarius in the 1st house makes me hesitate to be a follower in any regard) but I folded and eventually joined in. 

Our summer included a lot of parenting… which meant managing tantrums, attitudes, needs, wants and desires that ranged a 13 year age gap.

Surprisingly though, I quickly came to enjoy it, but for some reasons I really never expected.

My tennis coach constantly says, “Tennis is a lifting game: low to high, and follow through.”  

The insane amount of parenting advice I can take from that one tidbit of coaching, is incredible.

My tennis coach constantly says, “Tennis is a lifting game: low to high and follow through.” The insane amount of parenting advice I can take form that one tidbit of coaching, is incredible.

I’ve read my fair share of parenting books: Last Child in the Woods, Negotiation Generation, Nurture Shock, No Drama Discipline, Happiest Baby on the Block, The Whole Brain Child, Bringing Up Bebe… Well, a LOT of books. All of them, in one way or another, try to answer the trickiest question that every new parent asks of every veteran parent they know: “What’s the hardest part about parenting and how do I circumvent it?”

As if.

But earnestly, these books address and try to solve, the most common themes parents struggle with: lack of sleep, loss of self, sacrifice, not knowing the answers, balance of technology and nature, fear of making a mistake, and so on.

My husband and I together are just now 15 years into the parenting experience, and if you asked us, our answer would be the same thing my tennis coach reminds me over and over on the court: lifting low to high, and following through.

I’ve read my fair share of parenting books… [they all try] to address and solve the most common themes parents struggle with: lack of sleep, loss of self, sacrifice, not knowing the answers, balance of technology, and so on.

Parenting is a lifting game. You are constantly fielding things you’re not ready for, trying to gauge how fast they’re coming at you, how to respond and react in the moment, getting in underneath them before it’s too late and you’ve missed the opportunity, meeting them at just the right angle and sending them back into the world up and over the net, not smashed down into the ground or tangled up in a confusion of cord.

And how do you do that? You connect on their level (compassion and empathy), you raise them up (support, resource and guidance) and you follow through (creating and enforcing boundaries). 

My husband and I together are just now 15 year into the parenting experience, and if you asked us, our answer would be the same thing my tennis coach reminds me over and over on the court: lifting low to high, and following through.

Simple, right? Well… here’s the thing:

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again and again and again: it is *always* easier to be a lazy parent. And the hardest part, like I said, is following through. And following through means sticking to your boundaries. Enforcing your values and holding your standards.

How do you do that? You connect on their level (compassion and empathy), you raise them up (support, resource and guidance) and you follow through (creating and enforcing boundaries).

It’s always easier to go back on your boundaries. To not be consistent and let them “have their way.”  To see them feeling frustrated or upset and not fully engage. To not actually leave the birthday party because they’re being disrespectful and unkind, even though you said you were going to (maybe more than once). It’s always easier to not enforce boundaries, or heck, maybe not even set them… but it can blow your game in the long run (we have a teen and a pre-teen, trust me). Plus, it’s a bad habit. 

Whether it’s sleep training, potty training, behavior modification, working on sibling dynamics, manners, hygiene, respect, independence, responsibility-building or organizational skills, without the follow through, you won’t see much of a change without that persistence. Even if you can meet them where they’re at (compassion and connection) and lift them up (support, resource and guidance) you won’t get far without that follow through; just like in tennis, you can do it all right and if you miss that last part, you’re way off course.

Follow through comes from knowing limits and teaching them to your children. It’s not about punishment or consequence really; it’s about connection, compassion and understanding when it’s time to reign it in.

Follow through comes from knowing limits and teaching them to your children. It’s not about punishment or consequence really; it’s about connection, compassion and understanding when it’s time to reign it in.

One of the biggest shifts I saw as a parent was to acknowledge my children’s outbursts or meltdowns as a signal they were sending to me that they were overwhelmed and couldn’t identify their own limits, and needed me to give them those boundaries… to bring them into a place of control and safety. Even if they would struggle against that safety and control the whole way, it’s what they need and what they’re asking for.

Parenting feels hard, because it is hard. It has moments of glory, moments of pure beauty, but it’s mostly a challenge, especially during the younger years. But that’s why it is so worth the effort; because there is direct correlation.

All of our kids are immensely different. And while I think we have always been pretty good about meeting them at their level, finding ways to encourage, inspire or motivate them as need be, with each of them, the hardest part of parenting them has been following through. Sticking to and enforcing our boundaries. Because it hurts, because it’s hard. Because in the moment, it feels uncomfortable, perhaps unnatural. But it makes all the difference.

Parenting feels hard because it is hard. It has moments of glory, moments of pure beauty, but it’s mostly a challenge, especially in the younger years. But that’s why it is so worth the effort; because there is direct correlation.

It is *always* easier to be the lazy parent. So every time you follow through, know you are choosing to do the hard work and showing up for your children in the best way you possibly can.

How do you find setting and enforcing boundaries for your kids? I’d love to hear what works for you!

xo

Rebecca

 

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